Online, integrative therapy
For Those Done Over-Giving,
Over-Performing, and Never Feeling Like It’s Enough
Become Who You Were Meant to Be
You’ve spent your life becoming who they needed.
It’s time to stop living for the “shoulds” and come home to your truth.
Hi there, I’m
Dr. Kalianivala
(but you can call me by my first name, Anahita. Hear how to pronounce my name.)
I’m probably not your first therapist, but I might be the last one you’ll need.
Because I know this isn’t your first rodeo.
You’ve done everything they said would help.
You’re strong, capable, and self-aware.
But something still feels off.
You’re rewriting texts five times before sending.
Replaying conversations the other person already forgot.
Saying “I’m fine” when your chest is aching otherwise.
Wondering why you just can’t feel better, even after all your efforts.
It’s not that you didn’t try hard enough.
Or that you have some fatal flaw.
You’re not too sensitive, too much, or not enough.
It’s that you’ve been conditioned to survive in systems, relationships, and roles that were never designed to hold the full you.
This is where the un-doing begins—
To discover your truth
beneath the pushing and proving,
the bypassing and apologizing.
Do any of these feel familiar?
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You’ve felt the moment your body tightens with a “no” while your voice gives a “yes.” Where “I’m sorry” slips out on instinct, and your throat holds all the words you didn’t say so no one gets upset. You’ve been carrying the weight of keeping the peace, even when it costs you your own clarity, comfort, and truth.
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Your mind spins before your feet even touch the floor. Conversations loop, to-do lists stack in your chest, and your body stays tense like it’s bracing for the next shoe to drop. You handle everything, hold everything, anticipate everything — and still feel a relentless pressure to keep it all together.
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You know too well that sensation of running on adrenaline long after your tank is empty. You move from one crisis to the next, saying yes with a tight jaw and a tired heart, hoping things will ease but never actually slowing down. Rest feels foreign (if not unsafe) and you worry that stopping would cause everything to fall apart.
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You know how draining it is to wake up already feeling behind in your own body. You’ve tried resting, pushing, “doing it right.” And still, it’s like your energy slips away before the day even begins. You move in cycles of effort, crash, and confusion — wondering if you’re missing something or if your body is just broken. And you’re tired of feeling like the body you live in is a place you can’t rely on.
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You keep waiting for a “full body” yes, but it feels like work to get there. And if you get a twinkle of it, it’s hard to trust. You’re instantly overwhelmed and torn by options and opinions. It’s getting harder and harder to hear yourself — even though you know your inner wisdom has something to say. You rehearse conversations, choices, and outcomes and still feel unsure. You ask for advice, then feel resentful the second someone gives it. You want to trust yourself, and you almost do. But the moment of decision feels like walking a tightrope between disappointing others and betraying yourself.
If your system exhaled or said a quiet “yes” to any of these, this work can help.
I call it Slow Therapy.
The kind of space that moves at the pace of your breath, your body, and your inner truth. Not at the speed of pressure, performance or perfection.
A lot of therapy you’ve done before will ask you to explain what happened. In contrast, my work asks you to invite all parts of your experience into the room — your thoughts, the meaning you make of a situation, the emotional and cognitive memories you have about it, the way you’re feeling right now, what your body is yearning to share with you and all the ways this complexity works to shape who you are and who you want to be. That’s what I believe truly helps people embody their desired shifts.
Because healing doesn’t just “stick” when you “get it.” It sticks when your nervous system (and all your other parts!) feel safe staying in what you’re feeling.
That’s why this is different:
Instead of talking about your emotions, we experience them in real time
Instead of pushing past signals, we get curious about what your body has been trying to say
Instead of parroting “I’m fine,” we create space where you’re allowed to be a bit messy, a bit undone
Instead of coping (or gritting) your way through, you learn how to truly unwind
This is mind-body integration: where your mind, emotions, and physiology actually start talking to — and working with — each other.
Take a peek into my 6-month program, The Groundwork, and explore what makes this season of healing different.
With over a decade of deep clinical experience, I’m fiercely committed to helping you heal — and return to the version of yourself that feels clear, connected, and fully alive.
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Connection Call
If you’ve been craving ease — in your body, in your nervous system, and in the way you relate to others — let’s begin here.
This 15-minute video call is a chance to explore what support might look like, and whether it’s time for un-doing✨ in your healing path.
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Read My Love Letter
To the strong one, the perfectionist, the one who’s tired of always being on.
When you’re used to powering through, you don’t exactly do a great job of making space to receive support or honor your progress (or just breathe). Self, included!
And that’s actually why I wrote this letter… because I figured if I needed to hear some of these words of care, validation, and empowerment, maybe you needed to hear them too.
And my “love notes” series purposefully spaces it out so you:
Don’t feel pressured or hurried to consume it
Don’t dismiss the parts you roll your eyes at (AKA identify with) just as fast
And so that you can write me back with arguments, rants, and disagreements piece by piece (YAY for strangers on the internet)
P.S. Bonus for making it to the end of the series: an audio recording of me reading the letter aloud to you 💗